Managing Your Marriage with
Having good communication skills is the key to any healthy marriage. Practicing good communication will ensure that both you and your spouse will feel respected, valued and understood. Your faith supports you through life’s ups and downs and can also help strengthen and improve the way you and your spouse communicate with one another.
Communication with your husband or wife should be filled with kindness, love and civility. If you speak to your partner with heartfelt emotions and kindness, eventually they will reciprocate the same behaviors. In turn, this creates a good and open communication line when problems or disputes arise within the marriage. The bible teaches us a great deal about communication.
Do unto Others, As You Would Have Others Do unto You
As told in Matthew 7:12, “Therefore, whatever you want others to do for you, do also the same for them.” This powerful principle should be applied daily in your marriage. Just as you would not want to be nagged, screamed at or spoken harshly to, your partner does not want the same. Treat your spouse as you yourself would like to be treated. For example, if you would like your spouse to listen to you when you speak, show more kindness or affection towards you, or help you with daily tasks, first start doing these things for them. Treating each other well will open the door for honest, biblical communication that will nourish your relationship and bring you both closer together.
As 1 Thessalonians 5:17 tells us, “Pray continually.” You should first seek out the guidance of God’s will for communication in your marriage. Your faith lies at the heart of your relationship with spouse. Prayer allows you to align yourself with God, and reminds us of His love, care and compassion. Does what you want to communicate the truth according to God’s will? Take time to pray together as a couple daily or nightly before bed. Lay your problems before God in prayer. Praying together as a man and wife can be a beautiful way to help strengthen your marriage and build a love for your spouse. As well as for God, in a way you never thought possible.
Be Kind and Compassionate To One Another
As told in Ephesians 4:32, “Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” It’s very hard to communicate clearly when you are angry, resentful or hurt. Holding anger inside your heart will make it difficult to see your situation clearly. If you cannot let go of your anger for your partner, it will grow and make communicating with your spouse harder. Let go of negative emotions and do not allow them to get the best of you. Lay your resentment at the feet of God in prayer and seek his guidance.
Be sure not to bring the issue up again in future disagreements once it has been dealt with. Doing so could break the trust your partner has in you to move forward in love and life. In saying this, don’t harbor resentment. Harboring resentment, can taint future interactions with your spouse and stop you from seeing the good in your marriage. Just as you make mistakes, your partner is human and will also make mistakes.
Be Quick to Listen
James 1:19-20 says, “Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.” If you can implement this marriage advice it will change the way you communicate with your spouse forever. Learn to listen without judgement or cutting off your spouse off mid-sentence. By doing so you will learn so much about your partner and this simple action will bring the two of you closer together as husband and wife.
Communication in Your Christian Marriage
Having heartfelt, open communication in your marriage will help strengthen the bond between both you and your spouse. Both partners in the marriage will felt heard, loved, respected and validated in their concerns. They will know the other is willing to listen with an open heart to try to find solutions to any disputes that may arise. Good communication will give you and your spouse a kind and loving common ground; a foundation from which will bring you closer together, as well as closer to God.