3 Ways to Balance Your Relationship
The most important relationship we have in our lives outside of relationship with Christ, is our marriage. Threats to the balance of your relationship can cause a marriage to crumble and become unmanageable. When our relationship is balanced and in order, we have a deepened sense of intimacy with our partner. When our relationship is thrown out of balance, our marriage starts to deteriorate at a rapid rate. Imbalance in our lives leads to disorder, and then to chaos. One of the first steps we should take to maintaining balance in our marriage is to get our priorities in order. Let us dive into ways to balance our relationships, work, and family life.
Balancing Work Life
Balancing priorities is a difficult challenge for most people. Unfortunately, work related priorities often take precedence over the needs of those closest to us. Finding balance between your work life and marriage is difficult, but not impossible. Take a step back and think of ways that your work priorities may have kept you from attending to the needs of your spouse. Were you too busy striving to finish a project for work during the last two months that you neglected to change a furnace filter that your spouse had asked you to change? Becoming totally absorbed with your work duties that you neglect the requests of your husband or wife can create anxiety for both parties in the marriage. The only real way for a husband to love his wife is to make her top priority, after God.
Balancing Family Life
Today’s culture and society seems to thrive on being busy. That leaves little time to connect with God and even less time to connect with members of our family. However, if we are not taking the time to connect with our family, how much time are we really spending connecting to God? Remember to take the time to connect or reconnect with your family. Sundays are considered a day of rest. Use this day to plan activities with your family as a single unit. You could go to Sunday services and plan a family meal with no outside distractions for example. Spending more time bonding with your family and the Lord will produce more fruit in your lives and the lives of others.
Balancing Your Relationship
Not many people enjoy being around a spouse that is only concerned of their needs. Selfishness is a major cause of marital problems that can be addressed pretty easily. To balance your marriage, a key question you should be continually asking yourself is, “What does my spouse need?” In order to answer this question, you need to become aware and open to communication. You can watch for negative actions or moods, but you can’t quite assume what your spouse needs in the moment. A good course of action would be to reflect on the negativity your spouse is feeling, and ask, “Can we talk about it.” By listening to your spouse without giving advice, you will find what they truly need.
The key to a balanced relationship without being selfish about your needs is communicating your wants and needs, but also listening to the wants and needs of your spouse. Marriage is a two-way street. Both partners needs should be addressed to pave the way for a happy, healthy marriage. Marriage is about give and take, with the goal of more giving than receiving. Philippians 2:3-4 says, “Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of others.”
No marriage is perfect, and there is no such thing as a perfectly balanced marriage. Stay flexible in your marriage, and always remember to pray together and to put God at the head of your relationship. Learning to compromise and prioritize can be a challenge. However, one that can help both parties in the relationship becomes stronger and amore loving spouse. They become attuned to the needs of others. We can stay balanced if we put God first and ask for his guidance when our marriage becomes out of balance. As long as both husband and wife are continually walking in the same direction, balancing your marriage, as well as other aspects of your life, is achievable.